Is your family helpful or hurtful?


‘What happens in this house stays in this house.’ How many times have you heard that? It’s common enough for most adults to tell children not to speak about family affairs of any kind. Being only small children and wanting acceptance and love they obey these rules. Most of the time the people who hurt us the most are our family members. We don’t really think about the harmfulness of an abusive household because we think of home as a peaceful loving environment. It doesn’t matter who you are in the family, you can’t get hurt. More studies show that woman and children are the main focus on abuse but men can be abused also. Well today let’s stop this, if you are being hurt, harm, abused in any way, go and tell someone! If it’s your mother or father, brother or sister, go get help! Your family should love you, and love isn’t abusive. But this is the reality, not all families are loving and supportive. We tend to think of domestic violence as only between and grown man and woman, but domestic is the family affair. Only real difference is, if a grown man or woman is being abused, they know it and can more likely seek help. They have a clue that they don’t have to take that kind of abuse. Children on the other hand can be manipulated into thinking that whatever is happening is okay. Children are quicker to forgive because they want to feel loved. If you or a child are experiencing any type of abuse (mental, emotional, spiritual, or physical) there is help. Don’t feel like you’re alone, someone is there to help you. It is not ok for someone to put their hands on you because they are mad. Parents, I’m not saying don’t discipline your kids because you have all right to. I’m saying don’t beat them half to death. Kids are much weaker than you so you don’t have to put much power in every spanking. If you need help please contact the help hot linedomestics abuse line, and child abuse line. Also check out my previous blog about abuse . Some signs to tell if a child is being emotionally abused:
• Excessively withdrawn, fearful, or anxious about doing something wrong.
• Shows extremes in behavior (extremely compliant or extremely demanding; extremely passive or extremely aggressive).
• Doesn’t seem to be attached to the parent or caregiver.
• Acts either inappropriately adult (taking care of other children) or inappropriately infantile (rocking, thumb-sucking, throwing tantrums).
Physically abused:
• Frequent injuries or unexplained bruises, welts, or cuts.
• Is always watchful and “on alert,” as if waiting for something bad to happen.
• Injuries appear to have a pattern such as marks from a hand or belt.
• Shies away from touch, flinches at sudden movements, or seems afraid to go home.
• Wears inappropriate clothing to cover up injuries, such as long-sleeved shirts on hot days.
• Clothes are ill-fitting, filthy, or inappropriate for the weather.
• Hygiene is consistently bad (unbathed, matted and unwashed hair, noticeable body odor).
• Untreated illnesses and physical injuries.
• Is frequently unsupervised or left alone or allowed to play in unsafe situations and environments.
• Is frequently late or missing from school.
Sexual abuse:
• Trouble walking or sitting.
• Displays knowledge or interest in sexual acts inappropriate to his or her age, or even seductive behavior.
• Makes strong efforts to avoid a specific person, without an obvious reason.
• Doesn’t want to change clothes in front of others or participate in physical activities.
• An STD or pregnancy, especially under the age of 14.
• Runs away from home.


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